Is your inner voice a bully when you practice music?

Written By Erica Bramham

How to talk to yourself with kindness in the practice room

Includes a guided meditation for musicians and music students.

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Do you talk to yourself like a supportive teacher or a harsh critic? Many musicians speak to themselves in ways they would never speak to a friend. That inner voice might sound like “you’re terrible at this” or “why do you even bother,” and over time it can drain your motivation.

In this video, I invite you to shift your mindset and start talking to yourself like a great teacher would. One who helps you break down challenges, encourages you to keep going, and reminds you that your effort matters. It’s a small shift that can make a huge difference in how you feel about your playing.

The video ends with a short meditation to help you reset and return to your music with clarity and care.

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